Thursday, October 25, 2007

Sadness for A Friend...

Last night while we were overjoyed and excited about prepping the room for our bundle of joy my friend was experiencing a nightmare .

Early yesterday morning and again this morning she had to go through the pain of laboring, knowing that her children would most likely not survive. She was due in mid-February, so was somewhere around 24 weeks.

Her twin boys were born too early, Tristan and Kieran were just too young to survive.

I have no words to express my sadness. I am so sorry for my friend.

Bo and I are both so shocked. Just weeks ago we were celebrating the fact that our friend's children would be so close in age to ours (about a month apart). We expected they would be playmates and friends.

This loss reminds us to be thankful for every day that we are still pregnant and to remember that nothing is guaranteed. Just because we are halfway there does not mean we will make it to our goal.

I realize that my friend's loss does not mean I will loose my child, but it certainly reminds me to be cautious and also thankful.

9 comments:

CAM said...

That is so sad and terrible. It does not mean that you will lose your child but to have your friend lose hers - it just makes you know that you won't know if everything is ok until that baby is in your arms.
It may be hard for her to be too close to you now that you are pregnant...just something to think about.
Keep yourself positive for your own baby. :)

Suz said...

I'm so sorry...it's so sad and terrible.

Samantha said...

I'm so sorry for your friend.

Kate said...

I am so, so sorry for your friend. That is horrible.

mary ellen said...

I am so sorry for your friend's loss.

Gemini Girl said...

What a nightmare. No words.

ultimatejourney said...

I'm so sorry for your friend. I recently had a similar reminder because someone at work lost a baby at 21 weeks last week. It makes me so sad to think she might see my belly and be hurt by it.

The Momcaster said...

how awful...
i find myself worrying a lot more in this pregnancy than the last but it all makes you realize how much is not under your control - and as you rightly said, how much there is to be thankful for.

my deepest condolences to your friend.

niobe said...

I just saw this and am so, so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I lost my own twins at about the same gestational age and I so wish I could reach out to her.

If you think it would be at all helpful to her, could you point her towards some of the baby loss blogs? Also, feel free to give her my email address: like.niobe.all.tears (at) gmail (dot) com

When I lost my twins, I felt so alone, as if no-one could understand or identify with my pain. Online, I was able to find women who had been through the same tragic experience and who could comfort me and support me.