Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Wow, Didn't See That Comming

I've never really understood how or why people send their kids to bed without din ner. My parents never used that tool, they made us suffer through dinner while they gave us the hairy eyeball... I've always thought that was bad enough.

Tonight my kid has taught me that I really don't know a damn thing about parenting. I'm totally ready to send a 2.5 year old to bed without dinner to get him out of my sight.

He decided that he wanted Daddy instead of Mommy to pick him up from school, so he refused to leave with me... Can you say embarrassing? Then he finally realized he had no choice, so he proceeded to berate me all the way home, sulk, and said he didn't like his Mommy.

This escalated to a full-on tantrum at home... Wherein my lovely son told me to go away, that I was not nice. Time-out turned into a mess...

I ended up leaving him lying on the floor crying, while I went out on the deck and had a calming period. Then I made myself dinner, offered him some (which he refused), and proceeded to eat by myself while my son continued to tell me how unworthy I am. 

Oddly enough the insults, minor as they really were, stopped hurting or making me mad after a few mins... I just wanted him to be on bed so I didn't have to play the game anymore.

I'd say he is going to wish I hadn't learned to think that way... What do you think?

Btw- I couldn't help but think of the new baby on the way... Do we have to do this all again? I guess if we are lucky then yes, I guess we do.



HereWeGoAJen said...

I bet the new baby will find something different to drive you crazy with!

We all have days like this. I hope tomorrow is a better day! And did he ever eat any dinner?

Stacie said...

Isn't it amazing how they can find the exact buttons to push to annoy when they want to? Sigh.

Sending hugs to you. As Jen said, I think we've all been there. There are days I'd just like to pull out my hair and hide in the bathroom!

BigP's Heather said...

Since having Katherine I have had to eat EVERY SINGLE WORD I uttered about parenting before having a kid of my own...sigh

I, also, hope tomorrow is better.

Brandy said...

I think I could have written this post! My son and I have done that dance multiple times. We get over it but boy, I have DEFINITELY considered bed with no food before too. As I continue to tell myself, this too shall pass. Good luck!

Bella said...

Parenting is hard! So many days are just thankless. And then once in a while you have a day out of Donna Reed, where everyone listens and gets along, the house stays relatively neat, and bedtime comes early and full of hugs and kisses. Somehow those rare days are enough to keep us wanting to propagate our species!

Sticky Bun said...

Yup, that sounds precisely like our house these days. It's getting SO OLD. 2.5, I'm learning, is a decidedly less than delightful age sometimes.

Thankfully, they don't enter the world fighting us, so I assume by the time the next one gets to this stage, the exhaustion--i hope-- will have caused this to become a distant memory and we'll be refreshed and ready. That's what I'm telling myself anyhow...